21 Years of Lessons

21 Things I've Learned in 21 Years

  1. Not everyone will like you and that's okay. I've learned when people are mean to you, they are unhappy with themselves. Don't blame yourself for someone else's difficulty to accept your greatness. Never lower your energy to match their low vibration.

  2. School doesn't matter, experience does. College guarantees you nothing. Unless you plan to be a doctor, lawyer, or something fancy like that. Then definitely go to college. But if not, why rush into it after high school? Because that's what everyone else does and it's the "normal" thing to do? There are so many ways to create value in this world than a degree from college. Try different things and see what excites you. You can spend thousands of dollars to be in a sorority or fraternity, but you can also spend thousands of dollars to travel the world and learn through enriching experiences. Meeting new people and being introduced to new cultures will change your perspective on life. You will be more grateful and open-minded. But... don't get me wrong. I'm not saying I'll never go to school but my passion lies in holistic health resulting in me having to go down an alternative route. I believe in education, but not the standard "go to high school, then college, fall into debt, then expect to get a job after college." I don't like how college is generalized, inaccessible, and privileged. Everyone learns differently. Explore your options before you spend the time and money.

  3. Read, every day. Books have taught me more than I could have ever imagined. They are my anti-depressant. Books give you ideas. They teach you lessons. They make you see the world differently. We learn through experience, but sometimes there is only so much you can experience in a lifetime. Reading books helps you learn from other people's lives and apply their lessons to your personal journey. You will not find a highly successful person on this planet who would advise against reading.

  4. Meditate daily. Meditation is the first step to creating the life you want. It helps me clear my mind, accept things happening in my life, and become present in the moment. I could type paragraphs on this subject, but if you're more interested simply take the time to Google it!

  5. Exercise. It is such an obvious thing yet some people don't do it. It improves your overall health mentally and physically. When you exercise, your body releases endorphin's which trigger a positive feeling in the body. It also helps you sleep better at night. Who doesn't love a good night's sleep? If you want to be happier, get outside and get your body moving! Exercise has been found to decrease your chance of depression, anxiety, and stress. It is also related to higher success in your career. Humans are holistic beings. If you do not take care of your body, your life will suffer.

  6. Sleep is important. Waking up early is also important. Early sleep/early risers are more proactive and are proven to be more successful. Get enough sleep at night, your body will thank you for it. Getting 7+ hours of sleep each night is crucial to your health. A healthy amount of sleep is linked to increased memory, lower stress, longer life, decreased inflammation, and more.

  7. Say no to people, things, and opportunities that do not serve you. Do what is in your best interest and always trust your intuition. Avoid distractions that take you off your path. The more you distance yourself from purposeless activities, the more time you free up to better yourself. Anytime you are doing something, ask yourself how is this benefiting my life. This is the quickest way to realize if you're wasting time.

  8. Say THANK YOU. Every time someone does something for you no matter how minimal it may be. Gratitude goes a long way.

  9. Listen to podcasts or audio books. Listening to these in the car instead of the radio has radically changed my brain and thought process. Ordinary people seek entertainment. Extraordinary people seek education and learning.

  10. Keep a journal. Write in it. Write down your intentions, your goals, what you're grateful for. It enhances your creativity, helps you gain clarity, accelerates your ability to manifest, and increases focus. Research has shown that your brain, specifically your prefrontal cortex, is most creative and active when you first wake up. Instead of checking your phone first thing in the morning, write in your journal. It's a great way to start the day. My absolute favorite time to write is when I travel. I write about the food, the culture, the experiences, and everything else in between. When months then years pass by, it is so rewarding to go back and read over what I wrote. It takes me back to that moment and I can feel the happiness through my words.

  11. The news is negative energy. Watching the news is nothing but negativity. Detoxifying your mind from the public filth that is all over our news daily, will make you more optimistic.

  12. Volunteer. Nothing is more rewarding than giving. Give, give, and give some more. The Law of Compensation. You will reap enormous benefits.

  13. Health is wealth. Nourish your mind with the right foods. Simple.

  14. Quality over quantity. I swear I've heard this phrase since middle school but it is too true not to include. Have friends that inspire and support you in life. Having a couple good friends rather than a bunch of acquaintances is so important. Your vibe attracts your tribe.

  15. What you focus on grows. Focusing on negative aspects of your life will only magnify them. Humans are magnets. When you're grateful and focus on the positive, you will attract more positive things to be grateful for. What you think internally, you see externally.

  16. Positive affirmations are everything. The power of the words "I am" will literally change your life.

  17. Trust the process. Everything is working out how it is supposed to. There is a plan for you. Sometimes you're in a situation that you think it is the end of the world, but six months ago you were in a situation with the same thoughts. And two years before that. You will always make it through. Greater things are in the works. You may not see it today or tomorrow, but you will eventually look back and be absolutely amazed by how every little thing worked out and brought you to where you always wanted to be. In the meantime just breathe and have faith. Timing is everything.

  18. Coconut oil. For everything.

  19. Forgive others. "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." -Buddha

  20. Don't tell people your plans, show them your results.

  21. Everything that happens to you is the best possible thing that could happen. 

 

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